Gas lighting is the process by which you rob your spouse of their understanding of reality, at this tumultuous point in your relationship your sense of reality is strained to begin with. (You have accused, she has denied.) It is possible at this point if you are an expert at gaslighting to remove entirely your spouse’s handle on who they are and their understanding of reality. When you bent over your office desk for your office cock that was not your greatest sin, that you reserved for when you systematically and diligently set out to remove your spouse’s, (at this stage,) tenuous grasp on all that made him human by deny, deny, deny. To disengage someone from their life long understanding of who they are is a gross act of cowardice and the greatest sin you can commit within your relationship. Integrity, a good life, and a peaceful passing require guts. A confession suggests the possibility of forgiveness.
Whilst gaslighting is not gender specific, the results are. Women tend to eventually believe the lies they spout, hence the sincerity with which they can lie. Men however never believe the lies they spout, this being a weakness that a smart women can exploit in her search for the truth.
The origins of gas lighting; Little Johnny/Jane is playing in the kitchen alone, he/she breaks a cup, mummy/daddy comes running, “Johnny/Jane did you break that cup?” “No” comes the reply. “Johnny/Jane did you break that cup?” Again, “No” This goes on until Johnny/Jane eventually confesses then he/she gets his/her slap. Little Johnny/Jane soon realizes that the slap never came until the confession. The lesson they learn; never confess no matter how damning the evidence.